whybanme
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Message #173125 posted by whybanme (Info) March 05, 2008 12:21:50 ET
In Reply to: RE: Time to move on... posted by rabbit hole traveler (Info) March 03, 2008 19:06:22 ET
Hey Wabbit, I feel for you man. You look pretty young in the pics, and have beautiful kids. I have been down several similar paths in my lifetime and I found that the rejection, hurt and funk lasted about as long as the time I was with the gal. Literally, if I was with a gal for 2 years, it took me that long to completely move past her. I would think there is a cut off of time (?), I would hope.
Being so young means there is plenty of time to meet the woman you are to be with. I do not know if I believe in "Soul-mates", but I do think there is person that is right for each of us. Sometimes we invest years into the wrong one, some are fortunate to find the right one from the start. I have had many relationships (short and long) and and working on an 11-year marriage that has been more difficult than any of my other adventures. Probably because my wife has a son from a previous, and court and custody and pre-existing hurt and wounds that I have to deal with interrupting our current life. It is never easy. There was an old saying that went something like "If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you it was meant to be". Then some smart-ass took it a bit further and said (*jokingly*): "If you love something, set it free. If it does not come back to you, hunt it down and kill it'>
NOw, do not do that :P, and hope you are not a nut (seriously). This kind of crap can really mess a guy up. Pray for peace, and for comfort. God can and will give you peace when it cannot be found anywhere else. Pray and believe.
It is amazing what a person's faith in God can achieve, and within a year or so, if she does'nt work out, you will be past it-maybe with someone new and think "I cannnot imagine being with her now!"
Good fortune
Kind Regards,
Ban†
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